Go Ahead … Make My Day!

I had an email this morning that lifted my spirits. The home I have been caring for so tenderly is being looked at lovingly by another. Nothing may come of this, but, it is encouraging. I have been planning my life for well over twenty years now, around making trips to this home, the retirement home of my parents. I have cared for them during these years; it is in the last year I have been intimately involved with the care of the land, the home, and its contents. I have made them my own. In truth I legally only have rights to one-third of this property. In fact, it is my heart-all mine. I know down the line a buyer will come along and pay money in exchange for the rights to call this theirs; I will then have to let go ownership; but the memories, emotions, blood, sweat, and tears are and will always be mine.

I am now preparing my own home for the transition to come; furniture and treasures will be transported and re-placed in the home I share with my husband. Their presence will hopefully comfort me as I, too, continue my journey from this world to the next. Life is not things; happiness is not owning things; but things do take on a life of their own when used, loved, and cherished by those we have-yes used-loved, and cherished.

Dear Lord, may I be a good steward of that which will be chosen and passed down to me. May I take joy and comfort in using and caring for them, as my parents and grandparents will take joy and comfort knowing someone cared, and still cares. Amen

I read this morning’s email with a mixture of joy, happiness, excitement, and yes, dread and apprehension. I have and will continue to ruminate about the future challenges ahead for me and my family during this continued transition process. I went in search of other’s thoughts on the dichotomy inherent within joy and happiness.

“Happiness is the art of never holding in your mind the memory of any unpleasant thing that has passed.”

“The moments of happiness we enjoy take us by surprise. It is not that we seize them, but that they seize us.”
Ashley Montagu

“Don’t rely on someone else for your happiness and self-worth. Only you can be responsible for that. If you can’t love and respect yourself – no one else will be able to make that happen. Accept who you are – completely; the good and the bad – and make changes as YOU see fit – not because you think someone else wants you to be different.”
Stacey Charter

“We tend to forget that happiness doesn’t come as a result of getting something we don’t have, but rather of recognizing and appreciating what we do have.”
Frederick Keonig

“Sometimes your joy is the source of your smile, but sometimes your smile can be the source of your joy.”
Thich Nhat Hanh

“Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony.”
Mahatma Gandhi

“It was only a sunny smile, and little it cost in the giving, but like morning light it scattered the night and made the day worth living.”
F. Scott Fitzgerald

“The grass is always greener where you water it.”

“Let us be grateful to the people who make us happy; they are the charming gardeners who make our souls blossom.”
Marcel Proust

“Optimism is a happiness magnet. If you stay positive, good things and good people will be drawn to you.”
Mary Lou Retton

“Life will bring you pain all by itself. Your responsibility is to create joy.”
Milton Erickson

Ecclesiastes 5:18-20  At last I have seen what is good and beautiful: It is to eat and drink and to enjoy the good in all our hard work under the sun during the brief lives God gives us. That is our lot in life. It is a gift from God when God gives some people wealth and possessions, the power to enjoy them, the ability to accept their lot in life, and the ability to rejoice in their own hard work. These people won’t give much thought to their brief lives because God keeps them occupied with the joy in their hearts. 

John 14:1  “Let not your hearts be troubled. Believe in God; believe also in me.

One of the most cherished songs learned at a Mother’s knee is, You Are My Sunshine. The contrast, dichotomy, here is quite clear.

You Are My Sunshine

First recorded and published by Jimmie Davis and Charles Mitchell in 1939

The other night dear, as I lay sleeping
I dreamed I held you in my arms.
But when I awoke, dear, I was mistaken.
So I hung my head and I cried.

You are my sunshine, my only sunshine.
You make me happy when skies are gray.
You’ll never know dear, how much I love you.
Please don’t take my sunshine away.

I’ll always love you and make you happy,
If you will only say the same.
But if you leave me and love another,
You’ll regret it all some day:

You are my sunshine, my only sunshine.
You make me happy when skies are gray.
You’ll never know dear, how much I love you.
Please don’t take my sunshine away.

You told me once, dear, you really loved me
And no one else could come between.
But now you’ve left me and love another;
You have shattered all of my dreams:

You are my sunshine, my only sunshine.
You make me happy when skies are gray.
You’ll never know dear, how much I love you.
Please don’t take my sunshine away.

In all my dreams, dear, you seem to leave me.
When I awake my poor heart pains.
So when you come back and make me happy
I’ll forgive you dear, I’ll take all the blame.

You are my sunshine, my only sunshine
You make me happy when skies are gray.
You’ll never know dear, how much I love you.
Please don’t take my sunshine away.


2 thoughts on “Go Ahead … Make My Day!”

  1. You have an offer ?

    Margaret Smith, ABR®, CRS®, GRI®, SRES®
    Coldwell Banker Caine
    Cell & Text: (864) 270-1108

    “Celebrating 40 years in Greenville Real Estate”

  2. You are such a child of God. I can see you are a good daughter, wife, and a mother. And you shall also a be a good grand-mother, everything about you speaks encouragement. I pray by the time you use what ever years you desire on the surface of earth, after enjoying enough both materially and spiritually, you shall live more than enough for your children, and children’s children. Not because they would be in need, but because the blessings have to be passed on. and on and on. Good post!

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